I happened to hear a talk this week by a gentleman who is presently in charge of one of the premier performing arts institutions in the world.
His words and vision for the future of both this organization and the classical music industry were inspiring on many levels, but what resonated with me most were the stories of his own unexpected journey to such an esteemed position. A place which, if I understood correctly, he had never even thought to consider as a possible destination.
How did he get there?
One recurring theme in his stories was optimism. Not blind optimism, but rather, the certainty that if an idea was truly special, extraordinary, remarkable, and worth pursuing (as in, now that I’ve thought of it, I’m no longer content to live in a world in which this does not exist), he would find a way to make it happen.
Why don’t more of us possess this quality? What’s the main thing that gets in our way and prevents us from making a bigger difference in our world and community?
Buts: The optimism-killer
Fresh, new, innovative, different, visionary, and potentially transformative ideas are usually received by others with initial skepticism and a slew of reasons why it won’t work. Case in point, the original iPad, and the negative pre-release press it received: LA Web Design Blog, MarketWatch, Gizmodo.
In much the same way, when we get a great idea about something we’d like to do someday, our own “but” is usually not far behind.
I really love that horn. But it’s out of my price range…
I’d love to enter that competition. But it’s an awful lot of repertoire to learn, but it’s so far away, but I don’t know if I’ll be able to even get a tape made in time, and what are the chances of me winning anyway?
I’d love to meet Yo Yo Ma and ask him a few questions about arts entrepreneurship over coffee. But I’m just little ol’ me, and how would I even get his contact info anyway? I’m sure he’s crazy busy and wouldn’t have time, plus he’s probably never going to pass within 100 miles of here anytime soon…etc.
Sure, sometimes our buts are valid, but that doesn’t mean the idea itself isn’t worth pursuing. We owe it to ourselves (and the world at large) to at least give our ideas and dreams a fighting chance.
The problem with our buts
The problem with buts, is that they tend to lead to inaction. They convince us that the best course of action is to do nothing, thereby maintaining the status quo and stunting our growth.
The buts are an extension of our tendency to underestimate ourselves. Or more specifically, to underestimate future us.
See, we know who we were yesterday. But we’re not especially well-acquainted with who we are today. And we haven’t the foggiest idea who we could be in the future.
In much the same way that my 4-year old has no way of knowing if she will like cayenne-spiced peanut butter and banana on cinnamon raisin bread sandwiches when she is 21, we have no idea who we will be in 5, 10, or 20 years either, and what that version of us will be capable of.
After all, we are not the ones who will be getting admitted to Curtis someday, or playing principal in the Chicago Symphony, or directing our own music festival, or organizing an online international contemporary harpsichord trio competition. That’s something only future us can do.
Our job is to educate and stretch the capacities of present-day us, so that future us will have had the requisite experiences necessary to be capable of taking hold of the reigns when the time comes.
In other words, our job is to keep our buts from getting in our own way.
As this speaker noted to the group, we will all be doing things in the future that we cannot possibly envision or predict in advance. Our best bet is to do our absolute best with whatever is in front of us right now, and keep an eye to the future by following our natural curiosities where they may lead us.
Simple. Don’t let the buts have the last word. Acknowledge the but, but then rebut the but with a series of opposing viewpoints and alternate possibilities.
Here’s an example of how that dialogue might go:
Yes, the horn is expensive, but there must be a way to raise the funds. Maybe I could take out a loan, or convince them to agree to some sort of payment plan. Maybe I could organize some sort of fundraising event, or get donations, or find a sponsor, or submit a grant proposal, or sell copies of my own cd…..etc.
The one-sentence summary
“How often in life we complete a task that was beyond the capability of the person we were when we started it.” ~Robert Brault
Performance psychologist and Juilliard alumnus & faculty member Noa Kageyama teaches musicians how to beat performance anxiety and play their best under pressure through live classes, coachings, and an online home-study course. Based in NYC, he is married to a terrific pianist, has two hilarious kids, and is a wee bit obsessed with technology and all things Apple.
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