Two Words That Could Jinx Your Next Performance

Have you ever gone to the doctor for a shot, and been given the oh-so-helpful advice to “just relax” right before they stabbed you with a needle?

Or been moments away from walking on stage to give a big performance, and encouraged to “just relax”?

Though completely well-intentioned, most of us know from experience that this is easier said than done.

But no big deal, right?

Well…for some, being told to relax might actually be the worst advice you could give (ok, not literally the worst advice ever, but it could do more harm than good).

How so?

The ironic monitoring process

Back in the mid-1800’s, Dostoevsky remarked “Try to pose for yourself this task: not to think of a polar bear, and you will see that the cursed thing will come to mind every minute.”

If you’ve ever tried this, you know how tough it is to avoid thinking about whatever it is that you’re not supposed to think about.

Intrigued by this phenomenon, Harvard psychologist Daniel Wegner developed a theory he called the “theory of ironic processes of mental control” to explain why our efforts often have the paradoxical effect of causing the opposite of what we want.

Because it turns out that this phenomenon is not restricted to only our polar bear-related thoughts. Researchers have found that trying to concentrate can lead to greater distractibility, trying to sleep can make it more difficult to fall asleep, and trying to avoid certain motor movements can make those more likely to occur.

Wegner explains that there seem to be two mental processes that contribute to mental control. One system keeps us on task, avoiding thoughts about polar bears. The other system checks in every so often to make sure we’re still on task and not thinking about polar bears…which…makes us think of polar bears. Isn't it ironic?

And when we’re stressed, distracted, or our cognitive resources are being worked to their limits, the “stay-on-task” system can be weakened, allowing the ironic “are-you-still-on-task?” system to make its presence felt even more strongly.

“Just relax!” under pressure

One of Wegner’s early studies in this area involved 87 undergraduates at the University of Virginia who were tasked with answering a series of test questions in either a stressful or not stressful condition.

One group of participants were instructed to relax, and told how important it is to relax – and asked to do so as quickly as possible.

The other group was told that it wasn’t important whether they were relaxed or not, and that if the adrenaline kicked in, they should go ahead and experience those feelings.

Some participants were then induced to feel more pressure to perform well by being told that the questions they are about to be presented with were taken from a new intelligence test that was being developed – and because they were smart students, they should be able to answer them correctly. They were also given time pressure and told how important it was to keep up with the questions and not fall behind.

Other participants were told that the questions were being evaluated for a later study and that the scores didn’t matter – that a lot of people get them wrong and they were just curious how folks would respond to the questions.

The researchers attached participants to electrodes designed to measure skin conductance, as an indicator of their activation/anxiety level (when our fight-or-flight system kicks into gear, our sweat glands produce more sweat, which increases the electrical conductivity of our skin).

As predicted, even before hearing the first question, participants who were told to relax became a tiny bit more anxious than those who weren’t.

And once the test questions began, the ironic phenomenon became clearer – but only among those who were in the stressful condition. Participants who felt pressure to perform well, and were told to relax had significantly higher skin conductance levels (i.e. they were more anxious and less relaxed) than those who weren’t trying so hard to relax.

Take action

So what are we to do? How do we avoid trying so hard to relax, so we can be more relaxed?

Some degree of trial and error will probably be necessary in finding the right strategy for you, but here are two things that you can try:

  1. Sport psychologists have suggested providing yourself or a student with more detailed instructions on how to release tension without actually using the word relax or saying anything about relaxing per se. For instance, “take a deep diaphragmatic breath, listen to the sound of your exhale, and feel your shoulders dropping, getting heavy as you breathe out” instead of “relax your shoulders.”
  2. Practice releasing tension in your muscles and building up little successes not just when you are calm, but when you are a little tense (like driving in light traffic), then more tense (rush-hour traffic), and even more tense (stuck in traffic and late for a really important gig/meeting/date). This will make it easier to actually release tension when it matters, because you will have strengthened this skill in situations that more closely replicate the stress of a real performance.

Additional reading

Wegner’s wittily-written life story and a compilation of strategies for more effective mental thought control: Setting Free the Bears: Escape From Thought Suppression

photo credit: S.Tore via photopin cc

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5 Responses

  1. Reminds me of the Mary Parish observation, “Anxiety is the process of praying for what we don’t want.”

    -s

  2. I have learned that if I am performing with a dance partner that is a beginner I cannot tell them to relax. If they are told to relax, the end up panicked and their memory fails them. Instead I just tell them to trust me, that I am the experienced performer (years of music and dance) and if anything goes wrong I am calm and can get us through it. Also emphasizing using their nervous energy to have some fun, seems to help.

  3. I’m struggling to understand how the phrase, “just relax” can lead to a poorer performance, or otherwise induce some degree of nervousness. I often question why these studies are not evaluated in a ‘cultural relief,’ in this case, to determine if said response is a function of ‘cultural language,’ or perhaps cultural attitudes and practices relative to training, specifically as it applies to musical training. Again, the issue of preparation comes into play. For instance, if you know that the use of said phrase is potentially disabling, would that knowledge prevent, or minimize the noted effect. A negative response is an emotional response, not an intellectual response, and therefore an effect that is somehow ingrained in the language, attitude and practices of the culture. As such, I would suggest that training in emotional intelligences; an educated understanding as to how emotions affect behavior and performance is a key to resolving this issue. As well, it is critical to identify particular verbal triggers that elicit undesirable responses.

    Certainly sport psychology had demonstrated the need and benefit of adjunctive exercises apart from the actual performance of a particular sport, specific mental training, such as visualization of various kinds. Apparently, in sports psychology, as well as other disciplines, there seems to be a need for ‘emotional training,’ tailored to each individual. As well, there should be an exploration as to why certain individual do not respond negatively to any particular suggestion relative to their performance. In such cases I would suggest that their emotional development is more ‘intelligent.’

    Part of the problem is that some adjunctive practices, otherwise useful, can temporally frustrate performance. Studies have demonstrated that athletes who introduce meditation into their regimentation can slow down, in the case of runners, until meditation become an integral part of their practice. A balance and integration must be newly established. Without proper instruction, training, and experience, this intervention may fail. Cultivating a mind to perform at a high level, largely free of emotional distraction certainly requires a broad understanding of those well established elements, many graciously offered from worthy websites like this one. Still, various degrees of individual instruction may be necessary to achieve the freedom necessary to transcend potentially negative responses to well meaning comments uttered before a performance, or practice session.

  4. Great article, this really makes sense. I think putting into action simple and manageable things to DO before a performance is the key. Ambiguous words like, “stay relaxed,” or “do great,” or “break a leg,” ultimately mean nothing in my opinion and given the broadness of the scope should only be expected to increase anxiety, worry and cause serious distraction. I highly recommend the article you wrote on you wrote on, “How to Make Performance Anxiety an Asset Instead of a Liability” for some great suggestions on actionable steps to take.

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