Why Me? (Or, How to Stop Feeling Sorry for Yourself)

Why Me? (Or, How to Stop Feeling Sorry for Yourself)

Murphy’s Law states that if anything could possibly go wrong, it probably will — and often at the worst possible time. As cheerily optimistic a world-view as this may be, we can usually recall enough examples of such times that it feels true.

Such as, showing up for an audition, thinking you have plenty of time, only to find out they are running ahead of schedule. Airline losing your luggage and lucky audition socks. Flight gets delayed, arrive at the hotel at 2am, and your only credit card gets declined with only 7 hours left before your audition.

What Do Sport Psychologists Really Mean When They Say “Focus on the Now”?

What Do Sport Psychologists Really Mean When They Say

Here’s something to try the next time you’re in a toy store and have access to an inquisitive 3-year old kid and some electrician’s tape. Tear off a big long piece of tape and use it to mark off a circle on the ground, about 3-feet in diameter. Put the toddler in the circle and see how long it takes for him or her to wander out of the circle.

5 seconds…maybe?

Ok, try to gently steer the little one back into the circle.

A Classic Test of Focus That Most Will Fail in the First 10 Seconds

One of the first things I typically do on an airplane is look for the SkyMall catalog. I’ve never actually purchased anything from the catalog, but it’s always fun to see what new cool overpriced and unnecessary (but still tempting) items might be out there. Sometimes I’ll even rip out a page and take it with me. After all, you never know when you might need a $120 portable reclining laptop desk, right?

This is probably how most people browse through catalogs. However, I once met a person who did the opposite.

Practicing with the TV for Laser-like Focus

Practicing with the TV for Laser-like Focus

The date is Saturday, February 23, 1991. Violinist Isaac Stern is in the midst of performing a Mozart concerto with the Israel Philharmonic, Zubin Mehta conducting, only to be interrupted by air raid sirens signaling a Scud missile attack.

The orchestra leaves the stage to put on protective gear; the audience remain in their seats wearing gas masks. Stern returns to the stage sans gas mask, and proceeds to play the Sarabande from Bach’s D minor Partita.

Most of us will never perform under conditions like this, but for a moment, just imagine.

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