Have you ever heard the phrase “perception is reality?” I read a book the other day in which the author described one such experience.
During a ride on the subway, a man and his young children entered and sat down near him. The children were yelling, being rowdy, and disturbing the other passengers, while the man stared off into space, seemingly oblivious to their antics and rudeness. After he had seen enough, the author asked the man if he might do something to control his children's behavior.…
by Noa Kageyama, Ph.D.
When was the last time you asked a complete stranger out on a date? Not just any stranger, but someone whom you thought was out of your league? What did it feel like to even consider the possibility of approaching this person and asking for their number?
If you’re like most, your heart would have been pumping like crazy, your blood pressure skyrocketing, sweat glands on overdrive, and your mind racing with fears of rejection or being embarrassed.
Did you go for it anyway? If you did, kudos to…
Trick question! As far as I can tell, we are all natural performers.
Observe a young child. Pay attention to how uninhibited they are. Ever notice how freely they express themselves without fear of saying the wrong thing, or doing the wrong thing? Case in point, my four-year old can’t carry a tune, but hams it up like a rock star and actually asks me to capture his performances on video.
It’s the night before an important audition, and Andrew is already feeling the nerves. He tries to tell himself that he’s ready, but all he can think of is the last audition he took, and how he crashed and burned after making a mistake on the easiest piece on his list. As he tries to get to sleep, all he can think of is a picture of himself being so nervous that instead of a strong assertive attack on his first note, he produces a horrifying squeak.
Most of us have had the experience of seeing…