When you watch elite Olympic athletes compete, what characteristic do you envy most? Blinding speed? Cat-like reflexes? The ability to eat like a horse and not gain any weight?
Have you ever thanked your lucky stars after a particularly good performance? After advancing in a big audition? After an extra bag of Cheetos magically drops down in the vending machine?
Certainly, luck and chance do play a small role in success and failure (and it’s certainly better to fancy yourself a lucky person than unlucky person), but attributing too much of your success to luck can cause problems.
Locus of control
I had a client who emailed me after advancing to the finals of a big audition.
You’ve probably heard various stories about famous people and their failures. Thomas Edison and his 1000 failures. Colonel Sanders and his 1000 failures. Abraham Lincon. J. K. Rowling. And the list goes on.
We know we’re supposed to suck it up, get back on the horse, and persevere in the face of adversity.
But dang, that’s a whole lot easier said than done.
When it comes to setting goals, we know that all goals aren’t created equally. If you want to have the greatest chance of ultimately reaching your target, you can maximize your success rate by selecting a goal that really means something to you.
But that’s only part of the equation. While the mere act of identifying a meaningful goal makes you more likely to reach it, there remains a big gap between having a goal and actually achieving it.
And this is where most of us get stuck.