How to Start Believing in Yourself

When you watch elite Olympic athletes compete, what characteristic do you envy most? Blinding speed? Cat-like reflexes? The ability to eat like a horse and not gain any weight? Or maybe something they possess on the inside - like self-confidence and a deep-seated belief in themselves? Confidence seems so natural to elite performers that it's easy to think that they were just born with it, or that it happened naturally because of their natural gifts and success. This might be true of some folks,…

Is It Better to Be Diligent or Lucky?

Have you ever thanked your lucky stars after a particularly good performance? After advancing in a big audition? After an extra bag of Cheetos magically drops down in the vending machine? Certainly, luck and chance do play a small role in success and failure (and it's certainly better to fancy yourself a lucky person than unlucky person), but attributing too much of your success to luck can cause problems. How so?

Why is it so hard to get back up after a setback?

Why Is It So Hard To Stay Positive After Setbacks?

You've probably heard various stories about famous people and their failures. Thomas Edison and his 1000 failures. Colonel Sanders and his 1000 failures. Abraham Lincon. J. K. Rowling. And the list goes on. We know we're supposed to suck it up, get back on the horse, and persevere in the face of adversity. But dang, that's a whole lot easier said than done. Why is getting back up so difficult? Why is getting discouraged and throwing in the towel so much easier?

What Are Your Biggest Frustrations?

Happy hump day! There are lots of things in our lives that are frustrating and inexplicable. Why is health insurance so expensive?  Why do I rush every time I get to a difficult passage? How do I stop doing that? Why are the milk containers at my corner grocery market so dirty? I'm thinking about writing a book with answers to questions like these (well, the second one, at least). Though I have questions of my own, I think if I'm going to take the time to write a book, it ought to answer not…

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How to Set Yourself Up for a Growth Spurt This Summer - Part 2

When it comes to setting goals, we know that all goals aren't created equally. If you want to have the greatest chance of ultimately reaching your target, you can maximize your success rate by selecting a goal that really means something to you. But that's only part of the equation. While the mere act of identifying a meaningful goal makes you more likely to reach it, there remains a big gap between having a goal and actually achieving it. And this is where most of us get stuck. Heck, most of…