Have you ever heard the phrase “perception is reality?” I read a book the other day in which the author described one such experience.
During a ride on the subway, a man and his young children entered and sat down near him. The children were yelling, being rowdy, and disturbing the other passengers, while the man stared off into space, seemingly oblivious to their antics and rudeness. After he had seen enough, the author asked the man if he might do something to control his children’s behavior.
Have you ever gone to a restaurant, ordered an entree you’ve never had before, and thought to yourself, gee, that was tasty, I wish I could get the recipe and make it myself at home.
Well, you’re not alone. Indeed, there are websites devoted to reverse engineered recipes of popular dishes from various restaurants around the country — like KFC, California Pizza Kitchen, P.F. Chang’s, Starbucks, even Ben & Jerry’s and Girl Scout cookies!
You can use the same concept of reverse engineering in the practice room.
What does reverse engineering look like?
Imagine this scenario.
Here’s something to try the next time you’re in a toy store and have access to an inquisitive 3-year old kid and some electrician’s tape. Tear off a big long piece of tape and use it to mark off a circle on the ground, about 3-feet in diameter. Put the toddler in the circle and see how long it takes for him or her to wander out of the circle.
Ok, try to gently steer the little one back into the circle.
There are lots of books and articles out there about perfectionism, but they are all a little biased. Specifically, they all deal with how not to be a perfectionist.